In a 2015 poll by the Gravitate Research Group, 80% of Americans said they prefer texting to voice calls, and the average American spends 26 minutes texting every day.

So texting compatibility can be an important signifier of how communication would work in a long-term relationship.

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A 24-year-old friend and medical student living in Chicago, Madeleine Boesche, says texting issues convinced her to break things off with an older man she was seeing.

“He was usually very prompt in his replies, but the way he phrased his messages was always stilted, dry and emotionless,” she says.

My friend and I had just seen a play and, like everyone else in the theater, I took out my phone as the curtain came down.

Waiting for me were five lengthy text messages from a guy I had been seeing for two months. ” I scrolled up to show her my seven unanswered text messages before, his three blocks of text before that and so on.

I’d heard similar complaints from friends: potential dates who texted too much, too little; used too many emojis, didn’t seem to understand emojis at all; were too serious, used to many “lols” when they clearly were not .

Each text was carefully analyzed for hidden meaning.It’s very hard for single people to know when they’ve gotten out of that ‘game’ stage.” MORE: How to Find Love Online, According to the Founder of OKCupid In her book, Turkle writes about a man she met who thinks the time he takes to carefully structure text responses makes him a better person, communicator and mate.Predictably, his relationship falls apart when he’s confronted with in-person conversations that demand equally thoughtful, emotional or witty responses as those he would take 10 minutes to craft over text message, but which he cannot replicate in the split seconds of live conversation. So you just share with each other in a way that makes sense without worrying about looking desperate or not, anxious or not,” says Turkle. One New York couple I know that’s been dating for four years limits their texts strictly to logistics. “It often weirds people out that we just aren’t in contact that much, but we have a mutual inability to text-converse,” the woman says of her significant other.But unlike the phone call, which has been around for decades, texting and messaging are new enough that no one can agree on what the hard and fast rules are, which means a typo might doom a future relationship.A winky face may be creepy to one person and friendly to another.Whether a witty repartee is established in those first few messages on Tinder or Bumble could be the first step to a lasting relationship.